Comments for Blog Midrash http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com j je jew jewi jewis jewish and proud (sometimes) Fri, 06 Nov 2009 14:04:23 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on The Katamon “bitza” or the singles scene, an introduction by Too much choice « Date like a Mensch http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/09/26/the-katamon-bitza-or-the-singles-scene-an-introduction/#comment-445 Too much choice « Date like a Mensch Fri, 06 Nov 2009 14:04:23 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=555#comment-445 [...] chance when you know there is such an abundance of people out there just waiting to be met by you. I wrote about that a few weeks ago in connection to my Shabbat meal experience, where I realized I wasn’t giving [...] [...] chance when you know there is such an abundance of people out there just waiting to be met by you. I wrote about that a few weeks ago in connection to my Shabbat meal experience, where I realized I wasn’t giving [...]

]]> Comment on Children and Lashon Hara by Deena http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/26/children-and-lashon-hara/#comment-442 Deena Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:24:28 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=607#comment-442 Oh, and let me just say that it's disgusting that Jewish kids are behaving like this. It is so important that Jewish kids are taught to treat everyone with respect. It's such an embarrassment when Jewish kids act high and mighty. Oh, and let me just say that it’s disgusting that Jewish kids are behaving like this. It is so important that Jewish kids are taught to treat everyone with respect. It’s such an embarrassment when Jewish kids act high and mighty.

]]> Comment on Children and Lashon Hara by Deena http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/26/children-and-lashon-hara/#comment-441 Deena Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:22:25 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=607#comment-441 Of course I think the best thing to do is lead by example. I hear so much lashon hara when I hang out with people and it hurts me all the time. I know that I sometimes talk it myself but I'm so aware of it and I do try to at least be somewhat careful about it. If in your home there is random speech about others, that is exactly what your kids will learn to do. After that, I believe a lot of it has to do with teaching your children compassion and sensitivity. I will often point out to a kid if something is hurtful to another, whether the other person is me or someone else. If they are able to tune into the suffering of others and relate to it on some level, hopefully they won't want to do something to others they wouldn't want done to themselves. Oh, and if the words spoken are actually a lie, that's a whole other ball game. (Everything till now was based on the idea that lashon hara is anything spoken about someone else, even if it's true. The rules of lashon hara are quite extensive.) Of course lying is totally unacceptable but again, I only know that because of how I saw my parents behave. If parents tell little lies here and there but then expect their kids to be truthful or only to stick to white lies, they're going to be disappointed. A lie is a lie and a smart kid will see that and, if their parents tell little lies for convenience, they very well might tell bigger lies for convenience or other reasons. Haha, I sound so dogmatic here. I'm also in a mood so take it how you like. Of course I think the best thing to do is lead by example. I hear so much lashon hara when I hang out with people and it hurts me all the time. I know that I sometimes talk it myself but I’m so aware of it and I do try to at least be somewhat careful about it. If in your home there is random speech about others, that is exactly what your kids will learn to do.

After that, I believe a lot of it has to do with teaching your children compassion and sensitivity. I will often point out to a kid if something is hurtful to another, whether the other person is me or someone else. If they are able to tune into the suffering of others and relate to it on some level, hopefully they won’t want to do something to others they wouldn’t want done to themselves.

Oh, and if the words spoken are actually a lie, that’s a whole other ball game. (Everything till now was based on the idea that lashon hara is anything spoken about someone else, even if it’s true. The rules of lashon hara are quite extensive.) Of course lying is totally unacceptable but again, I only know that because of how I saw my parents behave. If parents tell little lies here and there but then expect their kids to be truthful or only to stick to white lies, they’re going to be disappointed. A lie is a lie and a smart kid will see that and, if their parents tell little lies for convenience, they very well might tell bigger lies for convenience or other reasons.

Haha, I sound so dogmatic here. I’m also in a mood so take it how you like.

]]> Comment on Manners in Israel by Deena http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/05/manners-in-israel/#comment-437 Deena Sat, 24 Oct 2009 17:17:53 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=575#comment-437 So funny that happened to you! So funny that happened to you!

]]> Comment on Manners in Israel by Melissa http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/05/manners-in-israel/#comment-436 Melissa Sat, 24 Oct 2009 07:39:53 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=575#comment-436 LOL!!! This is funny, and cute!:-) A few months ago the driver forgot to open the back door and I actually yelled "Na'ag!!!" and then everyone looked at me...then I said "Ummm uhhh, Driver?!" hahahaha.! LOL!!! This is funny, and cute!:-)

A few months ago the driver forgot to open the back door and I actually yelled “Na’ag!!!” and then everyone looked at me…then I said “Ummm uhhh, Driver?!” hahahaha.!

]]> Comment on Am I living Srugim? by Deena http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/am-i-living-srugim/#comment-434 Deena Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:55:55 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=592#comment-434 btw, for your interest, Ken in Hebrew means yes. : ) btw, for your interest, Ken in Hebrew means yes. : )

]]> Comment on Am I living Srugim? by Deena http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/am-i-living-srugim/#comment-433 Deena Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:55:23 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=592#comment-433 Ken, thank you so much for your very kind words. Very appreciated. Ken, thank you so much for your very kind words. Very appreciated.

]]> Comment on Am I living Srugim? by Ken Kendall http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/am-i-living-srugim/#comment-432 Ken Kendall Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:45:42 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=592#comment-432 Thank you Deena for taking the time to read. Since my last comment, I have had the opportunity to read some more of your posts. I love your open and honest, sincere heart. Thank you Deena for taking the time to read. Since my last comment, I have had the opportunity to read some more of your posts. I love your open and honest, sincere heart.

]]> Comment on Am I living Srugim? by Deena http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/am-i-living-srugim/#comment-430 Deena Mon, 19 Oct 2009 20:10:55 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=592#comment-430 Ken, thank you so much for stopping by. Your site looks amazing. I want to say that it always pisses me off when I hear women who talk against men. I think "men" (generalizing doesn't really work but whatever) have great potential and one of the most beautiful things to see in this world is a man who is being good and caring to his wife. I'm happy you're trying to effect change in that realm of the human existence. Good luck in your continued effort! Ken, thank you so much for stopping by. Your site looks amazing. I want to say that it always pisses me off when I hear women who talk against men. I think “men” (generalizing doesn’t really work but whatever) have great potential and one of the most beautiful things to see in this world is a man who is being good and caring to his wife. I’m happy you’re trying to effect change in that realm of the human existence. Good luck in your continued effort!

]]> Comment on Am I living Srugim? by Deena http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/am-i-living-srugim/#comment-429 Deena Mon, 19 Oct 2009 19:58:19 +0000 http://blogmidrash.wordpress.com/?p=592#comment-429 Rafi, you understand a whole lot more? I'm curious what you're referring to. As for just enjoying, well, it's a nice idea theoretically but there are a lot of nice ideas theoretically, the question is where each of us is and how much we're capable of implementing the ideas we believe in. I'm not saying I'm NOT capable. I'm saying that if I am, great and if I'm not, it's understandable and not the end of the world. Nachon? Rafi, you understand a whole lot more? I’m curious what you’re referring to. As for just enjoying, well, it’s a nice idea theoretically but there are a lot of nice ideas theoretically, the question is where each of us is and how much we’re capable of implementing the ideas we believe in.

I’m not saying I’m NOT capable. I’m saying that if I am, great and if I’m not, it’s understandable and not the end of the world. Nachon?

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